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I count it as a blessing to be single! I have no kids and I am realistically only responsible for myself. Ya sista cleans for 1, cooks for 1 and has a gang of time to spend with the Lord and serving in the Kingdom. Although I desire a family, the Lord is teaching me to be thankful for the positive things that come with being single and not focus on what I don't have. When the time is right, the Lord will send someone special my way and together we will give God even MORE GLORY!!!
Here are 10 questions for all my single sistas and brothas.
If you desire marriage - ask yourself:
1. Have I put God #1 in my life?
2. Am I living holy before the Lord? (Confessing sins on a daily)
3. What is my reason for marriage? Does it come from my lustful desire?
4. Am I happy with myself internally?
5. Is the person I'm interested in being used as a crutch for loneliness?
6. IS the person I'm interested showing fruit of being a disciple of Jesus?
7. Do I have other issues that need to be dealt with first?
8. Am I ready to take on a new life and sacrifice time and finances?
9. Am I mature enough to accept marriage as a gift even if it doesn't come in pretty wrapping?
10. Am I mature enough to have Godly standards for my mate instead of a list of expectations and earthly values?
It can be challenging to be single and also a blessing. I have to cling to the word of God so that I am not lured into traps set by the enemy and it is a constant war within my flesh to be holy. Is it possible to stay away from all forms of sexual immorality while waiting on a mate for marriage that is planned in God's perfect timing? Yes.
There are several ways the enemy can keep you sexually immoral which I believe will prolong God's blessing in your life for a husband or wife. Here's the Top 4 I came up with. If there's more.. feel free to add to it.
- Sex before marriage
- All forms of Pornography
- Masturbation
- Rushing into marriage to fulfill your sexual needs
All these things are damaging to your relationship with the Most High.
Remember who we serve. We serve a Holy God. And although he understands our need for companionship...he expects us to live holy and pure.
Your thoughts?
Right on sista, thats real. I'm saved sanctified single and serious as well, and i really appreicate what you wrote, it's solid truth. I currently work in fulltime ministry more like ministry in training, and I see this whole broad issue of exactly what you were talking about with being single set apart and holy for the lord, as an issue not being talked about or confronted in the church. I've been saved for a little over five years now and I've been praying to the Lord ever since then for a family that I felt I didn't have growing up and a wife that i can love and cherish, a major part of that is me wanting someone to help deal with the lonliness and and someone to be intimate with when I really need to have God fill the void and I need to intimate with him. I think as men and women we see examples of those before us and most of the time we pattern our lives and our relationships after those examples. There are so many teenagers today who are living in single parent homes growing up with no foundation of what a godly relationship with the opposite sex is, reality is I'm still trying to figure it out myself. That's sad but true, the deal is if the leadership of the church is getting caught up in sex scandals and looking at porn in their office, etc. how can we speak out against it if that's how people inside and outside the church percieve it.The divorce rate on the church is as high as in the un churched. theres something seriously wrong. I was in the school of don't talk about it be about it. in other words people see what we do and how we carry ourselves more than we realize and and the word of God is to be lived as well as spoken. Another friend of mine that i've known for a while who has a call of god on his life was working here with me in the ministry telling folks be pure live holy wait till your married to have sex, well he blew it and ended up sleeping with another girl who worked here and they both walked away without confronting the problem, ashamed, moved in together and are now going to be getting married by another pastor from a different church shortly, everything he told everyone about sexual purity went out the window and it frustates me because i believe it but can't seem to get my point across or always even get it right myself, i have at least two teenage girls in my youth group right now who are pregnate and several other ones dealing with lesbenism and sexual immorality. i agree with what you wrote whole heartily but how do we reach out with message. alot of teenagers today as well as even adults don't ever want to get married and it seems that marriage is taken to lightly and if things don't go right then we'll just get a divorce, my cousin got married and was married for not even six months and already divorced how are we as the church as the body of christ to answer unholiness and impurity in this world, with holiness and purity in own lives,Only jesus can do that they don't need to hear me speaky they need to hear the lord speak. they need a personal deep intimate realtionship with the lord themselves people don't care about how much you know until they know how much you care, you can't give something you don't have, we can't impart in to others things we don't have in own lives, that's real. hey i really truly appreciate what you wrote and that's just my thoughts on it for the moment. feel free to comment god bless